Thursday, May 20, 2010

What Makes A Family

Family used to consist of mom, dad, siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and so forth. The older I get though; I realize family includes others as well. Two of my best friends I met in sorority in college. We have become so close that I consider them my true sisters. I am Auntie Ashley to my friend’s baby, who will be one in July.

According to Wikipedia (because it is such a trustworthy source and all), family is defined as an exclusive group of people who share a close relationship —a unit typically (or "traditionally") composed of a mated couple and their dependent children (procreation) in co-residence. I agree that it is a group of people sharing a close relationship. A unit.

I have met a group of women on Facebook, on a Ft. Benning page. Some mothers, some girlfriends, fianc├ęs, wives, but all are going through what I am going through. We are without someone special in our lives right now. Without each other who knows how we would be handling the situation.
The last three weeks have been and rollercoaster ride and we have been there to try and make each other smile, laugh or even cry together. I am amazed and thankful for my new family and can't wait to see what is in store for us.

Families are those who are there for you regardless if they are blood related. They don’t have to be the ones living the closest to you or the ones you see every holiday. The ones I consider family are the ones that are there even when I don’t want them to be. The ones that lend a shoulder, cry with me, laugh with me, through good and bad. The ones there just to hang out.


Army Wife said...

And what an interesting family you will find in the Army! Like any large family, you have all sorts of different personalities. Some are wonderful and caring, and others are less so.

But you will make many great friends, some of whom will be for life. You truly will never find any group of individuals as welcoming as the military family.

However, and this might sound rather jaded, once you move to your first post, be aware of what you say and to whom. When you go to a wives coffee, the wives will repeat much of what is said to their husbands. So if you don't want your hubby to be made fun of at work the next day, keep the personal details to yourself.

But I AM happy that you found a great group of women to help you through this time.

And when you DO go to Ft. Bennning to visit, check out Ruth Ann's for breakfast in downtown Columbus. It's a local greasy spoon kind of restaurant, but is delicious!

Paige said...

Ashley -I couldn't have said it better myself. We are our on little family right now and I hope well into the future. This group is honestly what helps me through the day. On days when I don't get a letter, I'm so excited for those who do. I think that is what being a family is all about-celebrating each others joys and sharing in each others sorrows.